Why a Booster Belt is a Must

Kids always think they do know what they are doing. They feel like they’re old enough to take the booster seats instead of the child’s seat. But evidences suggest that older kids who remain contented with booster seats until such time that they become the size of a small adult are less prone to injuries.

Studies show that less than 7% of the twenty million children in U.S. from ages four to eight take the booster seats. This statistic is a frightening one considering that around 500 children from that age group get into car accidents every year. Furthermore, injuries are pegged at thousands more. Experts say that these injuries and death can be prevented if people would only know to use these booster seats right.

If a child is made to use safety belts for adults too soon, chances are that the child’s internal organs be injured once the belt rides up and slices into his stomach during a car crash. If the shoulder belt is put behind his back, his torso can forwardly jackknife thereby increasing the chances of getting injuries in his head and abdomen. Around 80% of the passengers four to eight years old involved in 30,000 car accidents were improperly secured by safety belts that are adult- sized. Sadly, the results of these car accidents were tragic.

Why a Booster Belt is a Must
Children’s use of seat belts for adults will more likely cause injuries to them. Parents should never know how painful it is to lose a child; especially that death and injuries can be prevented.

The Simple Solution
Booster seats elevate the children’s seat to secure them properly in the adult belts. They are recommended for children weighing 40- 80 pounds and are used for the vehicles’ back seats that have 3- point shoulder belts. Remember that children that are 13 years old and below should never take the front seats with air bags. Once their height reaches up to 4’9″ and their weight to 80 pounds, children can already use the back seat’s adult belts.

These booster seats can be purchased at any major department store and even at websites or superstores carrying products for children. You can also ask suggestions from the car’s manufacturer or from an insurance company about where you can buy booster seats around your area since some companies even special promos offering these booster seats at a lower price of even for free.

Playground chasing
Have you noticed that at school playgrounds, 6- year old girls group themselves together and chase around one boy who seems to be having fun in this playground chasing?

This phenomenon can be explained in such a way that kids of this age explore relationships with peers as well as their place in their group in the form of play. From being family-oriented, they suddenly become peer- oriented.

Playground chasing is one way of exploring friendships and of flirting at a very early age. When they reach the school age, girls group themselves into cliques-and one activity solidifying their position in the in-crowd is to chase boys. In playground chasing, girls formalize their being a member of the clique at the same time pleasing their interest about boys.

Kids in kindergarten or first grade often chase around for the boys that they like. But when they get older, this dynamics change. The boys will usually play basketball or soccer during recess time while the girls join in their game or play among themselves.

School is one place where children explore a part of their personalities that they do not show when they are at home. They also develop all sorts of relationships. Playground chasing is one way of expressing their sides that they only show when outside the school.

If you notice these kinds of behaviour in the playground, avoid interfering unless the boy being chased finds the attention uncomfortable, or unless you see that there is a possibly that someone might get hurt in the game.

Online Dating Guide – Tips on How to Find a Date Online

Dating these days has also gone into the internet and in fact, a lot pf people get to marry the person they met online. If you are also looking for someone to date who is from another country, online dating can be your choice as well. If you are new to online dating, or you want to attract the right person, here is an online dating guide and some few tips that you might find useful to find a date online.

– Find a good online dating site. Find a place where you can find the person you want to date. There are sites that focused on a certain nationality, or location, such as sites where you can find Russians or Asians.

– Post a good profile and a good photo. Make sure your photo is current as well. Misleading photos may lead you to trouble a little later, so be truthful with how you look now and don’t post a photo when you were twenty years younger.

– Know what you are looking for. Keep in mind that the internet has a worldwide reach and that means emails will flood after you have posted your profile in online dating sites. To help you manage this, and to help you find the right person easily, try to specify what you are looking for on a woman or a man that you are looking for. This will initially screen the emails that you will receive as well.

– Be polite. Whether you are a woman looking for the man of your dreams or you are a man looking for the right woman for you, it is important that you have to be polite with your conversations. Of course, the first thing that can help you attract a person online is to be polite with your words and in conversations.

– Do not be too familiar. Calling her ‘honey’ or ‘sweetie’ in your first few conversations might turn her off. Indeed, that can be sweet but for total strangers that you just met online, that can be a little too familiar and that might create a not-so-good impression for you. Be yourself but make sure that you know the do’s and don’ts in online dating to help you become successful in getting a date online.

– Watch your grammar and spelling. If you want to make a good impression, it is important that you also watch your spelling and grammar. As you would first converse online in chat rooms and emails, it can be a turn off for many to see some grammar and spelling errors. Another important thing that you also have to consider as one of your rules in your online dating guide is to get rid of shortcut messages that you often use in text messaging. Instead, use the full and correct spelling in your emails and conversations.

These are just few of the things that can help you find a date online. However, it is important to note that in looking for a date online, you have to be extra careful for possible scams and posers who are just after your money.

Major Online Dating Sites

What makes certain online dating sites better than the others? There are many dating websites out there yet as with many things, there are always the most popular ones. What makes the major online dating sites so popular? Some of these top ones include Koopa.com, OKCupid.com, PlentyofFish.com (Pof), and CasualKiss.com.

Well, one of the main reasons is that they are free. They don’t charge a fee for you to sign up and start finding people you want to get to know. Like the others, many of them help match you up with people who have the same interests, goals, likes, and dislikes. But the major online dating sites also allow you to find people who may not be recommended by the sites. Crazy as it seems, many sites match your profile to other profiles but you can’t customize your search and pair yourself up on your own. But the major Internet dating sites that are so popular allow you this flexibility and option. In other words, you aren’t limited.

Community is a huge factor in the success of top free online dating sites. Koopa offers a great community. Sense of community is also known as a psychological sense of community and users want to belong to a group where they feel a strong part of. Community allows them to be free to be themselves as well as be amongst others who can have that same freedom and be appreciated for who they are. Community is about acceptance and feeling like being in a big (or small) family. The group, or community, that you belong to is all dependent on you. And the top sites allow this.

Koopa is excellent in not limiting their users and visitors. The Koopa community allows you to be as social as you wish. You can use the free site strictly for online dating, for finding new and old friends, and for networking and finding business collaborations. Whether you upload photos and content to find your perfect match for dating or for business ventures and goals, that is up to you. You can create posts, questions, and content to assist you in your online dating and social networking with Koopa.

Plenty of Fish, or Pof, gives online dating site users a chemistry test to take. Their goal is to help registered users discover and list their emotional needs in order to develop long term, fulfilling relationships as their emotional needs will be met. Pof also helps you to discover your relationship needs. Many relationship sites don’t offer this.

OkCupid, like Koopa, allows for a mix. You can stir up your online dating and social networking. The unique thing about OkCupid is that you can be matched or NOT matched to anyone even if they are considered to be your Friend, Partner, or Enemy. Yes, you can even choose to be matched to your Enemy.

So there you have a few reasons why the major online dating sites are better than the thousands of free dating websites out there.

The Psychology of Online Dating: He Wants and She Is

In the first article in this series (The Psychologists Viewpoint) I outlined the different types of research using personal advertisements, generally printed advertisements published on the ‘lonely hearts’ pages of newspapers and magazines.

You will recall that over the last few years psychologists have collected and analysed thousands of these personal descriptions, and have found patterns and sex differences in what people want from a partner, how people advertise themselves to a prospective partner, and how well they pick up on the sort of things the other sex is looking for. This article looks at this from the perspective of male desires and female self-descriptions; looking at what men have actually said they are looking for in a partner, and how good women are at saying the right things to attract a man. Although this is about male wants it is probably of more use to women, particularly when you are considering the sort of thing to say in the ‘in your own words’ box of your online dating profile.

Firstly we will discuss the features that men particularly seek when describing their ideal partner and how women use their knowledge of this when describing themselves. Secondly we will consider how good women are at this – are there some things that women could say that would make a big difference? Finally we will consider how women can best use this information to hook the interest and get a proper look from men who are browsing through pages and pages of online profiles.

Before you read any further, pause for a moment and ask yourself what men are typically looking for in a female partner. Think of maybe four things and note them down … now read on.

What does the research say?

One of the strongest results to emerge from examining personal advertisements is the sex difference in the importance of attractiveness. Apart from age and sex, attractiveness (beauty, good looks etc.) is the most frequently described characteristic in personal advertisements written by both men and women but a whole range of studies have found that women are much more likely to describe themselves as attractive or using similar terms (handsome, beautiful, good looking etc.) than men are, and men are far more likely to say they are looking for someone who is attractive than women are.

This suggests that not only are men more interested in a partner’s physical attractiveness than women but that women already know and use this information. This is also backed up when you look at other physical descriptions such as hair and eye colour. Women are far more likely to mention their own hair and eye colour than men and men are far more likely to say they are looking for a ‘brown eyed brunette’ (or whatever) than women are. The other physical attribute that stands out is build or weight, often expressed as dress size. Granted there is no simple male equivalent to a woman describing herself as a ‘size 10’ (pretty slim in UK dress sizes) but there are plenty of other words (trim, slender, muscular) that could be used. Even so, men are more likely to describe the size/weight range of the person they are looking for than women, and women are more likely to describe their own size, build or weight than men.

Another important factor that emerges from the research is age. Age is almost always mentioned in advertisements written by both men and women. Usually both the age of the writer and the age range of their preferred partner are specified. There is little difference in whether or not age is mentioned so it looks like it is similarly important to both sexes. However there is a difference when you start looking at the actual numbers. In general, women are looking for someone of similar age to themselves or someone who is older by a few years. It is rare to come across a woman who states she is looking for someone younger. Men are usually looking for someone of a similar age or younger, in some cases considerably younger. This suggests youth is something that is valued by men, and perhaps this ties in with ideas about what is attractive.

Apart from stating their physiological age in years, many women who are (perhaps) re-entering the dating scene a little later in life give a more subjective evaluation of their age, usually saying something that implies youth such as young at heart, youthful, or looks younger. Older men also do this but it is much more common in women’s self-descriptions and women begin to use claims of youthfulness at earlier ages than men.

Overall, then, looking at personal advertisements the biggest difference between men and women is over description of physical characteristics including attractiveness and body size or shape, and specific physical features that may be considered attractive such as eye colour and hair colour. Age ties in with this if we assume a link between youth and attractiveness. Men tend to want younger, sometimes much younger partners while women, particularly older women, tend to describe themselves as being youthful in outlook or directly tie this in with looks by claiming to be young looking for their age.

On a wider level, a number of researchers have remarked that when women describe themselves they tend to emphasise their male-valued, physical traits rather than the traits that they, as women, place value on. It would be easy to argue that women do this because they hold stereotypical, even prejudiced views of men but the strong evidence of a match between how women describe themselves and what men actually say they want indicates women have got it about right. It appears that when women write an advertisement or dating profile, they often do a good job of writing for a male audience and seem to have a pretty clear idea of how best to promote themselves and attract male attention.

How can we use this?

Most of this is unsurprising and you may be thinking that you already knew this. However you now know for sure that this is not just prejudice but is backed up by scientific research. More importantly, this is knowledge you can use to improve your own profile.

Although there is little you can do to change your age, attractiveness and physical features, there is plenty of scope to decide what you emphasise and the kind of language you use. I am not suggesting that you lie, particularly since the whole idea is that you will eventually meet up and overt lying about physical features would do you no good at all. Without lying it is perfectly possible to focus on your best features and try to use the kind of keywords that men are likely to pick up on.

With online dating profiles, photographs are generally a prerequisite to getting responses and given the sex differences in the importance of attractiveness, it’s probably fair to say a good quality photo showing you in your best light is particularly important for women.

Apart from this there are the ‘in your own words’ sections of your profile. If you or others consider you attractive then mention this, don’t worry about the fact that it is already in the form-like section of your profile. If you are slim then mention this. If you are not comfortable with claiming either of these then mention your most attractive features such as your beautiful eyes, lovely auburn hair, attractive personality and/or young outlook. Notice the language I am using: it may seem trivial but adjectives like attractive, beautiful, lovely and young will catch the attention of the men who (on average) are more interested in this sort of thing than women. Men are predisposed towards spotting this kind of thing and even those who claim to be more interested in personality than looks will notice these words. If you feel you can refer to yourself as young and stunningly beautiful with a great figure then do so. If you don’t feel that confident then use more moderate language or qualify these statements (young at heart, considered beautiful by some, attractive figure) and refer to specific features like your hair and eyes. Using key words such as these and mentioning your physical features makes it more likely you will grab his attention and your profile will get more than a brief scan and then move on.

To wrap things up, this article has outlined the results of psychological research into what men say they want in a partner and how women describe themselves. This information has then been used to provide insight into the sort of language that might help a woman’s personal description catch a man’s eye.

The next article in this series, She wants and he is, turns the tables and considers what women say they want from men, how men describe themselves, and how good (or bad) men are at picking up on what women are actually looking for in a partner.

Online Dating Guide – Tips For Online Dating Success & Happiness

Online dating guides are everywhere these days and following closely behind are commercial online dating websites determined to suck you in and take your money leaving you with nothing at the end of it but a low self-esteem.

The worst thing is, you can easily fall prey and get hooked with online dating and end up spending way too much time on these websites, trawling through the countless number of profiles and photographs. The real truth of it all is that (and you can ask anyone who has been through it), the majority of people never find love through the internet. You do have a very small minority who “get lucky” but most people just end up wasting a lot of money, and most importantly..time. Time which you could have spend joining a club or a dancing class (for instance) to find real people whom you can connect with.

However, if you are really hard-headed with going with the online dating route, some advise is in order:

First of all, do not spend too much time on it. Spend a maximum of a few minutes a day sending out private messages or e-mails, and try to make contact with potential dates. Most of you have a full-time job so don’t risk your job by spending the whole day on dating sites – keep things in perspective!

Most dating websites will require you to put in profile data so others can find you. A mistake made by most people is that they put in way too much information about themselves which is unnecessary. Not only is it unnecessary, the more information you provide, the poorer the impression you will create.

Put down only a few critical details about yourself like your age, location, background and one or two hobbies. Keep other details like your job vague. It is true in real life dating as well as online dating that people want to slowly “discover” little things about a potential mate, rather than having everything served up on a platter right at the start. Start with the entree, move to the main course, and end with desert (the best part)!

Be enthusiastic with your written profiles and most importantly with your contact messages. Both men and women prefer an up-beat person compared to a neutral or depressed sounding one. If someone asks you “Hi John, how are you?”, rather than reply with “I’m good thanks”..try “I’m feeling fantastic!”. By doing so, you already put yourself way ahead of the competition.

If you find someone you’re interested in, and the feeling is mutual, it’s best to set up a quick meeting with that person. Keep it brief (no longer than an hour or so). This date is for the sole purpose of you finding out more bit of information that is lacking from your online encounters. It will also allow you to decide whether you want to go ahead and see that person more or not, giving you a chance to back out easily. Meet that person for a quick coffee at a busy and central place. You’ll be sure to discover things about your date that you might have overlooked at the online dating website.